How to deal with your child’s lack of motivation/confidence 

Many parents worry over their child’s performance and are always concerned about their motivation. A big problem in today’s world is children’s addiction to technology and children spending chunks of time on the ps4, Xbox 1, their iphones or laptops instead of investing this time into their school work.  


Parents must understand that children do need a break and spending a decent amount of time on technology is okay. Although, once it crosses a boundary and they spend loads of time, that is when one should step in and interfere.  


Some children lack motivation for many reasons and it is up to you to figure out what it is. The most common reason for a child’s disengagement is their lack of confidence as they are underperforming in school. One of the biggest demotivators is that they do not like what they are doing and they simply don’t care as they are not improving no matter what they do. They will find a way to blame it on others such as their teachers, classmates or even you. Here are other forms of disencouragement; 



  • Anxiety. Anxiety is becoming an increasingly common issue in students due to all the pressure put on them to succeed. This may cause them to prevent completing school work and participate in class, consequently impacting their performance.  
  • Stress. A lot of students stress when they complete their work as they are unsure if they are doing it to the best of their abilities, and naturally every person would want to avoid stress and thus they avoid their work and leave it to the last minute, creating low quality output.  
  • Perfectionism. Some students are perfectionists and procrastinate so that they can leave a time to complete their work to the best of their ability, although once they don’t achieve the results that they’re looking for they will continue to procrastinate, decreasing their overall motivation.  
  • Laziness. Many children are also simply just lazy, as part of childhood, they want to maximize their time enjoying life. Allow your children to enjoy it but also ensure that they have a balance and do study, by providing them with a timetable which will enhance their time management and allow them to apply this to their future activities as well.  
  • Depression. This is one of the more major problems, although one way to detect depression in a child is their disinterest in activities, especially the ones that they once enjoyed. If this happens, make sure to contact a professional but the best way is to prevent your child from reaching this point and Markitup will show you how.  


All children want to do good and to be praised, its natural instinct, although what you need to do is facilitate their learning process and help them achieve their goals so that they can continuously improve. 

Ways to Increase your child’s motivation; 

Tip 1: Don't compare them

This is one mistake parents often make, comparing their children to other over achieving children. Parents believe that if they compare their child with an over performing child, their child will be inspired and will want to follow in their footsteps. Those words “ Your sister has straight A’s” or “ Your aunt’s son is excelling both in sports and school”. This is one of the WORST ways to motivate your child as it will decrease their confidence and make them spiteful and even more reluctant to perform better.  

Tip 2: Establish Clear Expectations

Understand your child’s skills and abilities by asking teachers with how they are performing and simply by asking your child what they believe is achievable. By not placing extremely high expectations on the child, it will prevent you and them from feeling bad and pessimistic.  


Tip 3: Set Goals

Sit down with your child and honestly ask them what their goals are. Make sure that you make SMART goals that allows a realistic goal that they can strive towards. A goal will significantly motivate a child to actually work towards it each day. Make sure that you make small goals and also a large wholistic goal so that they can tick off the list and feel a sense of accomplishment along the way. 

Tip 4: Find something they enjoy

A big problem in school is the disinterest of a child in their work. Find out what they are interested in so that it can provide an impetus to focus more on their studies. Once they have achieved this, also find out ways and methods of studying they find best so that they may also apply it to other subjects that they are struggling in.

Tip 5: Timetable & Planning

It is a very good idea to plan and create a timetable for a child so that they can stick towards it and actually complete the tasks, articulated in each time slot.  

Tip 6: Praise

Never forget to connect with your child and ask them what is going on. In doing this you can find out what they have done well and what they haven’t don’t so well in. Make sure you focus on the positives and always remember to compliment them so that it increases their self-esteem, motivating them to do better. 

Tip 7: Peers

Another big factor is peers. Their peers can significantly impact their perception and out look on their studies and by immersing them in a positive and supporting environment with likeminded people, it will do wonders to their motivation. One suggestion is by enrolling them into a tutoring centre with fellow peers who al strive to achieve the same goals, and Markitup is a great place for that. 

Tip 8: Outside support

 Sometimes it can be too much to handle for busy parents who have other things to focus on and it may be too demanding to do all those things at once. By reaching for outside help, it can significantly help the child through targeted assistance in the areas that they struggle on with specialised people in that field. By enrolling them in a tutoring centre it will allow them to target their weaknesses and improve. This improvement alone and better performance in their subjects will motivate them continuously improve and hence boost their confidence in both themselves and their studies. 

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